How are you feeling today? No honestly, how are you really feeling? If you’re anything like myself, that answer varies from day to day. There are days when I wake up feeling like super mom and look in the mirror thinking “Okay, I look half-decent,” and there are also those days when I walk past the mirror only to wonder what train hit me while I was asleep. Let’s face it. We all have those days.
My mom and aunts used to always preach that us ladies should keep our ABC’s in mind. No, not the alphabet silly (although we probably do sing them or hum the melody involuntarily on a daily basis). The ABCs they were referring to is Always Be Cute. After getting into the flow of mommyhood, I soon started to question if that too applied to new moms. Is it even possible and attainable? Sometimes we just don’t have the energy to put effort into ourselves or we haven’t done laundry in weeks or we simply don’t want to put on our Sunday’s best just to be drenched in spit up by noon. Whatever the case may be girl, I feel ya!
Oh, what about our hair. Let’s take my current situation. I’m currently sporting a stiff 4-week old afro of which I cannot fathom combing through and to top it off I’m not exactly sure what may be living in there at this point. Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating a little… or not. Anyway, it’s soooooo much work to keep house and keep ourselves up. Let’s not mention the pressure that social media puts on us muvas to ‘snap-back’ and look like Kim K or Queen Bey a week after delivering our cubs. Mmmm-K. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but let me just keep it real. It’s not happening over here. Now, if I had a dream team of nannies, hair stylists, housekeepers, chefs, personal trainers and the like on my team, I’m sure this would be a breeze. Moving on.
Although it’s a struggle and we are usually last on our own priority list, I have to say that dedicating a little time and effort into self definitely makes for a better Mommy. Before anyone else, you have to like what you see when you look in the mirror.
I’m here to share some tried and true tips that may help you get dressed a little quicker while keeping those ABCs in mind:
- Clear out the clutter.
- Designate a few minutes of your day (or a few hours if you can get some help with your little one) to clear out your closet. Remove items that are out of season so they are out of sight. Store them away in vacuum Ziploc bags or clear totes. There’s no need to have 3 puffer jackets, 6 boucle sweaters, and corduroy pants staring you in the face in the middle of June in Texas.
Bonus: Get to moving and turn on your favorite Pandora station to double this time as your cardio session.
- If you’re a breastfeeding mom, separate all of your non-breastfeeding friendly tops and dresses from the ones that give a little for when you’re out with the baby. This has been a staple for me. There’s nothing like being out at a restaurant in your cutest red, white, and blue dress on the 4th of July with a hungry baby only to realize that you can’t access your boob to feed your hysterically crying baby unless you lift the whole dress. Not. Good. Don’t lose hope in ever being able to wear those pieces again though. Save them for a date night, girls night out, or simply remember to pump before and bring bottles along for your family outing.
- If you have pieces that don’t fit at the moment, put them aside. Use them as motivation pieces that you’d like to get back into by x date. You’ll get back to them soon, but don’t be too hard on yourself. It took your body 9 months to form and deliver a whole person. Give it some time to get back love (note to self).
- Toss it!
- We all have pieces in our closet that are taking up real estate. Bottom line – if it doesn’t make you feel good when you put it on, let it go. If you aren’t sure, call up a girlfriend (or your significant other), put on some music and have a fashion show in front of your mirror. Strut girl, STRUT. I have fond memories of doing this at home with my mommy! If you’re home alone with the baby, place him in his bouncer and you’ve immediately got an audience of 1! Have fun. Baby will likely enjoy seeing Mommy act silly too.
- Make some extra money by selling your unwanted pieces on sites/apps like Poshmark or eBay.
- Donate pieces to charity for a boost. Find a women’s or homeless shelter and find out if they accept donations.
Bonus: For quick organization, place 2 baskets/bags in your closet for donating and selling. When you’re going through your clothes, simply toss the items in their respective totes.
- Regardless of what you’re wearing, wear it with confidence. My hunni always tells me “You can wear anything you want babe. It’s not about what you wear, but how you wear it. Be bold. Just be confident when you do it.”
I truly hope this helps someone out there. Get dressed, put on some lip gloss, spritz your face with a little water, and GO!